“INFJ’s (Introverted – iNtuition – Feeling – Judging): Seek meaning and connection in ideas, relationships, and material possessions. Want to understand what motivates people and are insightful about others. Conscientious and committed to their firm values. Develop a clear vision about how best to serve the common good. Organized and decisive in implementing their vision.”
What do you think? Does that personality type sum me up pretty well?
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The other possible option reads thus: “INTJ’s (Thinking vs. Feeling): Have original minds and great drive for implementing their ideas and achieving their goals. Quickly see patterns in external events and develop long-range explanatory perspectives. When committed, organize a job and carry it through. Skeptical and independent, have high standards of competence and performance – for themselves and others.”
Skeptical and independent, check. Original mind, see post on Walter Mitty. I trace patterns across stories, books, and people. And high standards of competence and performance? That’s a nice way of saying “overachieving snob.” Which, let’s be honest, is a great assessment of my more noticeable issues.
But then I look back at the first one. Meaning and connection, conscientious and committed. I can see that. I got a bit tripped up when it came to material possessions, and I was pondering the meaning of this in great depth as I was painting a mural on my wall. Then I stopped and realized what I was doing – physically connecting the room I live in with my ideas, relationships, and motivations. So, apparently that one fits.
And I have always wanted to understand what motivates people. (In fact, if you wanted to reply to this post with a general statement about what motivates you in life, you’d make my day.)
But if I choose the first, that makes me a Feeler, not a Thinker. That doesn’t mean I don’t think, of course. It just means that I make decisions based on my feelings and the feelings of others, rather than on rational, logical, defendable reasons. This is confusing because I pride myself on being able to reason and rationalize, helping people be efficient and make decisions on a practical level (see “overachieving snob.”)
But when I make decisions for myself, for my heart, for my own insides’ well-being and balance, I weigh my values and ideals with the effect on the people around me, and logic-be-hanged.
This makes me a Feeler. It makes me a fluffy, people-centered, gut-driven, F.
Perhaps another day I’ll tell you how this revolutionized my life. But for today I’m going to go get in touch with my feelings.
H. Willman & L. Howerth. (2013). An Informal Interpretation of Your Personality. Friendship Press, Pendleton, IN.
Myers & Briggs Foundation. (2003). The 16 MBTI Types. Retrieved September 22, 2013, from http://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/the-16-mbti-types.asp#ISFJ.